Twenty-Five years ago today I married the boys' father. We made it for 15 years until I left him and then married for one more year because it took an entire year for our divorce, he fought the entire way tooth and nail. Our marriage did have some good moments, however I should have seen the signs about four months before we married the type of man he was. It was six months after our marriage when he was abusive for the first time. I should have been smart then but I just did not want to give up so soon. At one time I did love the man.
One of my sisters and I on my wedding day, 25 years ago.
It was hard on the boys after I met Todd. They were not used to be second at times. I learned during recovery from my breakdown about 3 months after my divorce that I had to put me first too sometimes. It was a rough balancing act with the boys. They were not used to me putting my happiness first at times but I explained I have to do this to be a good mother. I need to come first sometimes as well as Todd needs to be first. It does not mean I love them any less, I just have to be healthier to me and to my relationship to be the best to everyone including a mother to them.
Today I reflect back to twenty-five years ago. I cannot say I wish it never happened because our children mean the world to me.
2 years after we were married with Matthew.
My first and second blessing from that marriage.
And then there were three.
Blessings completed on this day.